My assignment was to write something to influence somebody. He called it Rhetoric and Persuasion…. I wrote “Ralph the Duck.”
Once upon a time, there was a duck named Ralph who didn’t have any feathers on either wing. So when the cold wind blew, Ralph said, Brr, and shivered and shook.
What’s the matter? Ralph’s mommy asked.
I’m cold, Ralph said.
Oh, the mommy said. Here. I’ll keep you warm.
So she spread her big, feathery wings, and hugged Ralph tight, and when the cold wind blew, Ralph was warm and snuggly, and fell fast asleep.
Sometimes a whisper can speak as loudly as a scream, and a mother’s lullaby can outperform a 104-piece orchestra. I’ve been reading a lot of complex symphonies lately; it was nice to be reminded of the power of simplicity. Not that it’s an easy story; it requires close attention, as it’s all carried in a word here, a sentence there.
The narrator is a college security guard who takes a free class every semester. He’s up against an English professor who never quite realizes that, despite his degrees, he’s no match for this guy by any measure. You are not an unintelligent writer, the professor tells him. “You are not an unintelligent driver,” the narrator says later, out of earshot, after fixing his car for him. The professor tries to convince him he can’t say “fuck” in a college essay. The narrator has some fun with this, putting forth a convincing argument, like a child would, until the professor in frustration falls back on the academic version of “Because I said so!” When the narrator turns in the story of Ralph the Duck for the Rhetoric and Persuasion part of the course, the professor gives him a D. “It isn’t unappealing,” the professor tells him; but, of course, it isn’t appropriate for the course. The narrator turns around and shows him just how talented he is at Rhetoric and Persuasion by rescuing a student – a student the professor had an affair with, in fact, how’s that for symmetry and unity – from a suicide attempt.
Simple, right? But that’s just the surface.
I was the oldest college student in America, I thought. But of course I wasn’t. There were always ancient women with parchment for skin who graduated at seventy-nine from places like Barnard and the University of Georgia. I was only forty-two, and I hardly qualified as a student….
I was getting educated, in a kind of slow-motion way – it would have taken me something like fifteen or sixteen years to graduate…
The professor’s addiction to litotes is loaded with meaning. Sure, it’s funny, a way to poke the overblown academic in the eye, but both instances have great significance because he’s stumbled onto a truth he can’t consciously admit. The narrator is one sharp cookie, but the professor can’t quite handle a middle-aged blue-collar part-time undergrad who can fix cars and get to the heart of “A Rose for Emily.” But by using the indirect structure – “not an unintelligent writer” – instead of containing the student’s ability, he’s exaggerating it, misusing a tool from his own workshop. Hoisting himself on his own petard, in fact.
… I could see how disappointed he was. He’d been banking on my having been a murderer. Interesting guy in one of my classes, he must’ve told some terrific woman at an overpriced meal: I just know the guy was a rub out specialist in the Nam, he had to have said. I figured I should come to work wearing my fatigue jacket and a red bandanna tied around my head. Say “Man” to him a couple of times, hang a fist in the air for grief and solidarity, and look terribly worn, exhausted by experiences he was fairly certain that he envied me. His dungarees were ironed, I noticed.
The professor’s also addicted to his own version of truth. He doesn’t want to hear about the guy’s military service spent in Baltimore railroad yards; he wants Vietnam combat, damn it, and he badgers him until he gets it, in a scene that reeks of testosterone – cigars, his own military service, the loose women he’s known, language, this guy is out to prove he’s as much man as his student even if he can’t fix his own car. Even if his dungarees are ironed.
Then there’s the narrator’s daughter.
We never learn the details about the girl – what her name was, how old she was or how long ago it was when she died. For that matter – and this matters – no one ever says directly that she died. It’s strongly implied, and how else would she be gone, but the loss of his child is one of those things the narrator just can’t face head-on; he in fact exaggerates the importance by not facing it, in a kind of psychological version of litotes. He comes very close when he rescues the student suicide, and we get a glimpse into what he faces daily, the heartbreak and guilt he carries around in quiet despair, as his daughter’s death, Vietnam, and the teenager merge into one.
In the end, it’s a story that leaves a lot of questions. It’s usually referred to as a story about a Vietnam vet, but I wonder if maybe the Baltimore story was the accurate one. If he told the professor what he wanted to hear, he knew how happy that made him, that it conformed to his preconceived notions, so he tried the same story on the suicidal teenager. It’s only when that didn’t work too well that he brought out the truth about his daughter. What if the Vietnam dreams he told the teenager were actually the dreams he has of his daughter? If he feels so responsible for her death it’s his own personal Vietnam? I can see this, I can see a father racing to the hospital with his daughter, only to find out he’s too late – so when he brings in the teenager, he says, “She better not die this time.”
So what does this have to do with the Ralph the Duck essay? For me, it formed the turning point of the story – not the essay, but the aftermath. The story starts with dog vomit and his wife sleeping on the couch, apparently a – forgive me – not uncommon event in the household. Things improve domestically over the course of a few days, but there’s a special poignancy when he tells his wife what’s going on in the class.
Fanny said, “Shit! you’re never that laconic unless you feel crazy. What’s wrong? Who’d you punch out at the playground?”
“We had to write a composition,” I said.
“Did he like it?”
“He gave me a D.”
“Well, you’re familiar enough with D’s. I never saw you get this low over a grade.”
“I wrote about Ralph the Duck.”
She said, “You did?” She said, “Honey.” She came over and stood beside the rocker and leaned into me and hugged my head and neck. “Honey,” she said. “Honey.”
This scene accomplishes a lot for me. First, we find out he has a history of “punching out at the playground,” which is what he’s been doing with the professor in a passive-aggressive way. Then we find out he’s a bit wounded over the grade, perhaps angry. But most importantly: Ralph the Duck has an ineffable significance, a significance shared with his wife.
So what’s the story behind the Ralph story? I don’t know. Maybe it was his daughter’s favorite story. Maybe it was the story he told her the night she died. Maybe it was a story he told her when she got scared in the hospital. Maybe it’s the story his wife told her. Whatever it is, it now becomes a story to comfort him, as his wife spreads her feathered wings around his naked, shivering heart.
I decided to read this story, which is from 1989 (it was in BASS) on an impulse. A few weeks ago, Celeste Ng wrote a post about it for the “Stories We Love” column at FWW. I could swear I saw a twitter conversation about it, but it’s not there anymore, so maybe I imagined it. That imagined conversation was so intriguing, though (even though I don’t remember anything about the contents), I went to my library and checked out Frederick Busch’s collection Absent Friends just so I could read it. It must’ve been one helluvan imaginary conversation. That would’ve been fitting, because it’s one helluva story. Even if it is quiet as a whisper.


on the side! That means marinated cuttlefish salad with carrots zucchini and peppers with a raspberry vinaigrette. She says she was a picky eater when she was growing up but she got over it! Alton likes the salad but not her presentation. He heard “I made a great salad and put the cuttlefish on it” and does not see that she grasped the ingredient.
Lovely has
as “sassify”! Chris is kind of pleased about that which seems mean for Chris who has been pretty pleasant so far! I am going to give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that he only heard this after the fact and it was something the producers made him say rather than that he sees Chad as direct competition and is glad to see him goof. Chad makes grilled salsify corn and bacon hush puppy. Bobby corrects his pronunciation but the hush pups are dense. That is too bad because they look delicious!
interesting that they gave her dragonfruit because I have never tasted it but I have heard it is very pretty with very little flavor to it and that is pretty much Danushka! Bobby wants her to be more creative. Oh come on you knew she was not much of a cook when you brought her on! And it sounds more creative than the fruit salad Rodney made! I can not believe I am defending her but there is so much to criticize her for it does not make sense to pick on silly things. At least she gets it because she says “I think I am failing in the food authority category.”
ingredients in the food processor but then he adds tofu as the glue to hold it together. I am not sure calling food glue is a good idea! He makes a kind of dumpling so Alex is reassured! He talks about sin and New York and San Francisco during his presentation but does not finish talking in the one minute. They have no idea what the food was. Damaris thinks it is all soft with no crisp. Bobby says it is not his best dish and he does not need all the bells and whistles he needs to BE the bells and whistles. Russell: “I have screwed the pooch royally.”
broth. That does not sound very good but it looks amazing! He talks about hot dogs in his childhood. I am beginning to wonder about him. First he was born in a Malaysian refugee camp and then his mother made umeboshi and now she is working 18 hours a day and he is making ramen with hot dogs and that is his earliest food memory. Giada would be pleased he has a childhood story for everything! Truth is not that important. Damaris says it is complex and refined for 30 minutes. Bobby likes the presentation but thinks he needs more passion. Do not listen to him Viet! I am still unable to get over what FN did to Emeril even though now when I see him on Top Chef he is pretty normal but they turned him into a buffoon! Do not let them do that to you!
little pepper-plates instead of stuffed peppers. I finally understand Lovely! She has said it all along but this is the first time I have seen it! She makes comfort food, like stuffed peppers but makes it Glam! I get it now. She makes a sauce with apple juice and the leather. Rodney likes the apple pie filling on top. It is not apple pie filling but pie is what he does so that is what he calls it. Alex thinks it is too sweet and needs some garlic or soy. Bobby praises her for being confident and smooth but Alton complains she is too slick and too smooth like she is reading a script right in front of her eyes. This is a tough room you can not make them happy!



mitzvah, but you get the idea: he’s trying to convince the world “Today I Am A Man” and we’re all giggling at how cute it is, in that completely off way when a kid tries to put on grownup clothes. Now, I don’t pay much attention to clothes unless they leap out and demand attention. This change is glaring to those of us who’ve been following him on TV for the past several years. You can’t buy cool – but you sure can sell it for ratings. And yes – I am far more upset about this than I logically should be.


I think it needs to be that complicated, to tell the intertwined stories, to show them in various combinations, to show events from multiple points of view. It’s necessary to spiral around, getting closer and closer to the truth (I came up with a little graphic, combining this spiral structure with Fola’s tendency to “feel” the well-being of her four children in separate quadrants of her abdomen, to know when something’s wrong by physical sensation). That’s how we live, after all, going through things over and over, thinking about seminal events at various points in our lives, and, with a little luck, learning more about them, more about ourselves, along the way. That’s how these characters progress.
It’s a very visual book. I can see the portrait of Somayina (and the generation-spanning hatred Femi directs towards it); the basket of slippers by the door; the statue of the Mother of Twins, “iya-ibeji;” the night of uncharacteristically playful, joyous sledding Taiwo mentally edits over time to remove Kweku after his departure; Kehinde’s art, the canvas he signs then gives his father, unaware of the moment as it happens; the photograph that so puzzles Sadie, until she realizes its significance. And the battered brown leather slippers. 




























sent his laundry out to his mother. Not that it matters, since Walden is a different book. 
